I've struggled with this bit - I know it's important but am still not sure about what advice to offer. If you have any advice to offer me you can either email me email@example.com or write to me at PO Box 46873, London SW11 5YL
Thinking about this started with my weekly list of things to be done. I am good at writing lists of things to be done, but less good at doing them. Some things disappear from the list immediately. Others things linger, even if getting them done will make life easier and it would be sensible to get them out of the way. I asked myself why this was and got the answer 'because your heart's not in it'. I realised that this went beyond the list and was true of much in life.
When you know what you really want and your heart is in it then life is less effortful, things happen.
But how to work out what you really want - it sounds so simple but feels so difficult.
Heart (or instinct, intuition,
hunch or gut) is what you really want
Your head can mislead - it is often too distant and proper - what you 'ought' to do. It may have been influenced by what other people think you should be doing and you have politely listened and taken their views on board. But sometimes you've been too good at that .
Follow your head and you get to goals, objectives and to do lists - very useful for the things you don't really want to do but have to do. Follow your head and you may end by bullying yourself with deadlines. This can be useful (particularly when it comes to bills, tax returns and the like) - but it's not wishing. We all have to do some of the sensible head stuff, but you deserve your heart's desires too.