want and why:
1. Finding out what it is you really, really
Ask yourself (or even better get someone else to
What do I want?
What will that do for me?
Keep asking these 2 questions
until you end up coming back to the same place.
Why you need to know what you really
And what you think you want may be different
When I started to
plan this I knew I needed to work to earn the money to pay for my
travels - so I thought about the work that I needed, but nothing
I imagined the work coming my way and lots of proposals were asked
for, but no actual projects. I was on the point of despair, trying
to work out how to find the money. I sat down with my bank statements
and tried to work out how much I needed - a week later I got a tax
rebate for almost exactly that amount. A huge relief (and it seemed
like a sign that this is what I should be doing). I realised that
it wasn't really the work that I needed but the income it generated
- and here was income from work already done.
2. Write it down
in the positive
It needs to be what you want and not avoiding what
you don't want
avoiding what you don't want doesn't work
wishing it is best to think about what you want.
It may seem easier to work out what you don't want - the risk is
that you'll be able to tell when things are going badly but may
not notice when they are going well.
even if you start with what you don't want - see how it feels when
you use positive words and express it as what you do want. You will
get what you focus on, so best to focus on what you want
3. What's already
When thinking about wishes it's also a good idea
to think about what is already good. This might explain why your wish
hasn't already come true.
you are now may be more powerful than what you wish for
you've been wishing for something for ages, but nothing seems to
shift. I keep wishing for a garden - but it gets no closer. If I
stay in the same flat then i don't have to work as much as if I
bought a flat with a garden - so although I keep thinking about
a garden - in truth I want the free time more than the space (so
far). At the moment the garden is a dream, rather than a wish.