Why you need to know what you really want
And what you think you want may be different

When I started to plan this I knew I needed to work to earn the money to pay for my travels - so I thought about the work that I needed, but nothing happened.
I imagined the work coming my way and lots of proposals were asked for, but no actual projects. I was on the point of despair, trying to work out how to find the money. I sat down with my bank statements and tried to work out how much I needed - a week later I got a tax rebate for almost exactly that amount. A huge relief (and it seemed like a sign that this is what I should be doing). I realised that it wasn't really the work that I needed but the income it generated - and here was income from work already done.

Why avoiding what you don't want doesn't work

When wishing it is best to think about what you want.
It may seem easier to work out what you don't want - the risk is that you'll be able to tell when things are going badly but may not notice when they are going well.

So even if you start with what you don't want - see how it feels when you use positive words and express it as what you do want. You will get what you focus on, so best to focus on what you want

Where you are now may be more powerful than what you wish for

Sometimes you've been wishing for something for ages, but nothing seems to shift. I keep wishing for a garden - but it gets no closer. If I stay in the same flat then i don't have to work as much as if I bought a flat with a garden - so although I keep thinking about a garden - in truth I want the free time more than the space (so far). At the moment the garden is a dream, rather than a wish.